Tips for Navigating Grief Understanding and Coping With Loss

Those who have suffered a death or loss may feel like their grief is unending. For some this may be the first time they have dealt with loss, and they are in unfamiliar territory. While there is no quick fix for grief or magic activity that will make it disappear, we can offer some tips for coping.

Ask For Help

If you need some help, ask for it. Ask friends, family, visit your family doctor or call the BC Bereavement Helpline at (604) 738-9950. After a death, we often hear from people wanting to help during the first week or two. However, our grief may extend far beyond that timeline. There are many resources available [internal link to blog about resources] but we need to reach out to access them.

Exercise

Getting some exercise, even a modest walk or plucking weeds in your garden will make you feel better. The combination of fresh air, sunshine, and movement is good for both our bodies and our minds and is a first-line treatment for both depression and anxiety. While grief is a normal emotion, it can make us feel terrible. Try to get a little exercise for 20 or 30 minutes every day.

Journaling

Writing down how you feel can help. Writing things down can make us feel less alone. When you suffer a profound loss, sometimes it does not feel real. Taking some time to write down your thoughts can help you to process the reality you are experiencing.

Another suggestion would be to write down what you are grateful for. You may not be feeling very grateful with the loneliness you are experiencing, but the practice of taking time to appreciate what you have as opposed to what you do not, makes one feel better. Feeling grateful for the smallest of things, like your coffee, your pet or the sound of the rain is a good start.

Create a Memory Box

For some, creating a memory box for yourself, filled with memories of your loved one is something to treasure. Inside the box you can put photos, poetry, keepsakes, jewelry, or anything that reminds you of your loved one. These boxes store and protect your most precious items to look at in the future.

The most important takeaway here is to be kind to yourself. Everyone’s journey through grief will be different. Time does not heal our loss but teaches a way to cope with our loss. 

Arbutus Funeral Service Inc., based in the Walnut Grove part of northwest Langley Township, British Columbia, is a family-owned and operated funeral home providing practical and affordable funeral services. We believe in cultural sensitivity and treat every family with respect and compassion. If you have any questions about this article or would like to talk to us about funeral services, please call (604) 888-9895.